السبت، 21 فبراير 2015

Failure to launch


For those who have not watched the movie: it is about a 35 years old man that still lives with his parents and is afraid of commitments and moving out of their house , they search for a therapist to convince him to leave their house through acting as if she is in love with him until he moves out of his home to share his new house with her


Each time I watch this movie I laugh a lot comparing their situation with the Egyptian situation, we in Egypt (and Arab world) would never accept any of our children (even if they are over 30s or 40s) leaving their parents’ house for any reason but marriage of these Children who are really big children, and the situation does not change if this “child” is a man or a woman !!!
Once I had this conversation with a German friend when she asked are you married? , I said no , she asked “ do you still live with your parents?” I laughed and said” yes” and then she started asking about how I feel about living with my parents in my age !!!.  I explained that culturally this is not accepted even if I can afford moving out and she replied I moved out of my parents’ house since I was 16 !!!


And here when speaking about moving out it is for the feeling of independence and that you can drive your own ship not for reasons of being free or “ 3esh 3ala 7al sha3rek”
But our society would never accept this and sees the only reason for moving out is for getting married only , so what if I do not get married for any reason do I still have to live with my parents!!!  It is about the space you want for yourself and feeling of your independence and not of being in-obedient “child” if you refuse their refusal of your moving out


A friend of mine when she travelled alone and relocated outside Egypt ,she explained her first night at her new location as the feeling of bride and that the happiness she had was equivalent to any newly married bride , the feeling of your OWN HOME is a feeling that is never comparable to anything else
In our great society even a man can’t have his own home even if he can afford it and his neighbors would see him as a womanizer for no reason but only for living alone


Even in a lot of cases the “child” would not  leave with his parents even after marriage !!!  either in the same apartment, in the same building or even in the same area according to the social level of the “child” and will have to go back to family’s house if his marriage ends for any reason !!!



My dream is to have that small studio flat I see in IKEA each time I visit them that is about 25 miters , where, when, how do not know  but one day this dream will come true !!!!

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  1. All Arabic parents can't believe that their children can be independent. Or can afford all life's responsibilities. If the child is a girl so she has to have someone to share financial responsibilities with her. If he is a boy, So he has to have a woman to share house responsibilities with him. and so on in work, in college .... etc they always treat us like a babies they'll never grow up :(

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