السبت، 29 مارس 2014

Talking to a stranger


When we were kids they used to warn us from talking to strangers as if they will eat us

Instead they should have taught us the guidelines to talking to strangers, to be nice and in the same time cautious  

This made some of us closed and introvert and do not seek contact with any kind of human contact as if the stranger would eat us alive

This extended in some cases towards new relations, new opportunities in life coming from stranger, new experiences in whatever field that may be related to strangers !!!

Then after a while you find out that the experience of talking to a stranger is completely a free experience without pre-assumptions , judgment or stereotyping specially if from different culture or nationality

This stranger may be a person you meet for the first time and occasionally for the last time , in a row , in a plane, a train, in clinic, in restaurant ….. everywhere

This experience is a nice one specially that you do not have to hide anything , to express reasons behind your thoughts , your way of thinking as simply you do not mind if he / she misunderstood you or even misjudge you

It is pure human to human communication

Once I met an old man in the plan, he was an Egyptian leaving in Amsterdam for the past 40 years and for no reason started telling me his life time story and how he moved there and how he managed his life and how he did not even know their language in the beginning  . The conversation started with what is your destination and we talked for about 3 hours !!!

Another one in the train as I was asking for the next train stop and my stop and as I do not speak German language I started searching for anybody who can speak English and there he is , he helped in the translation and we started talking . The amazing thing about that is at the end I found that he is Marrakesh and he found that I am Egyptian then we switched to Arabic , the end he was going to the same stop and after that the same place so he was my escort to the place I was going to  !!!

You may be introduced to this stranger in the line of elections while waiting for hours until your turn comes and , at that time the lady in front of me was defending a nominee I did not like but she was too open minded to talk and discuss the pros and cons of each nominee , the nice thing about that lady was when one girl crossed the line and wanted to go before all of us and me as usual tried to correct her and she started insulting me , suddenly I found the lady defending my point of view and calling for the army officer to take her out then we restarted our political debate she was amazingly nice person

 But it is not usually a pleasant experience as in another time I found myself next to a lady with 5 or 6 kids who does not know even English and I was her translator to the hostess at some point I pretended to fall asleep to stop the whole “women ra3’y “ as she talked nonstop and started complaining about the kids and their problems

Overall I like talking to strangers as you just explore new area, new cultures, and who knows you may make friends too and find them on facebook !!!

If you do not like the idea, just make it a smile to a stranger you see in the street because simply you may not se him/ her again but for sure you may change your or their day by that smile

الخميس، 20 مارس 2014

د. أسامه

بدات الحكايه summer training  في شركه ادويه , كان المسئول عن المجموعه اللي بتتدرب , كانت اوضه التدريب في اخر المصنع متطرفه وكنت بروح بدري في الباص
في يوم لقيت نفسي لوحدي مع حد من زمايلنا والمنظر معجبنيش فخدت بعضي ورحت له في مكتبه في المصنع وقعدت معاه الظاهر ما كانش فاضي فسالني انت ليه جايه تقعدي معايا ومش قاعده هناك فقولتله ان المنظر مش صح واني مش مبسوطه من القعده دي بدري هناك لقيته فجاه قام من مكانه وقام وانحنى بشياكه قوي وقالي اسمحي لي اشكر بابا على تربيته ليكي وقالي كل يوم تعالي الصبح اقعدي معايا لما الباقيين يجوا
من ساعتها بدا يوريني حاجات في الشغل غير للي بيوريها للمجموعه ولقيته اب حنون جدا اصله مكنش عنده بنات لدرجه انه قالي في مره لو كان عندي بنت مكنتش اتمنى تكون احسن منك
خلص التدريب ورحت اسلم عليه واستاذنته افضل معاه على اتصال وفعلا فضلت معاه على اتصال
في مره كان عايز نباتات نادره من بابايا في وزاره الزراعه وبابا عرف يجيبهاله فكلمته عشان اوصلهاله قالي كلمه ما نسيتهاش " صاحب الحاجه يسعى اليها " وجه بيتنا واتعرف على اهلي وقعد يشكرلهم فيه ساعه
صادف ان اليوم ده كان تاني يوم نتيجه تعيين اوائل الدفعه وكنت الثامنه واتعين 6 وكنت في قمه حزني وهو عندنا اتفتحت السيره دي ولقتني باتفتح في العياط قدامه
تعاطف معايا جدا وبالتيلفون عيني في المصل واللقاح بعقد مؤقت لحد ما التكليف يجي لي ومن بعدها كان بيتابعني من بعيد لبعيد
افتكرت مره وانا في الشركه عنده لما سالني انت عايزه تتعيني ليه قلتله دي الحاجه اللي مش عايزه  واسطه وانا معنديش وسايط قالي انت واسطتك كبيره وانت مش عارفه اتاريه نوى يساعدني ايامها
بعد كده كان بيجي الهيئه عندنا يدربنا على الشغل في المناطق العقيمه كل يوم سبت وبصراحه لو انا اتعلمت حاجه من حد في الموضوع ده يكون منه استمر معانا شهور طويله واسس الواحد بجد زي مالكتاب بيقول لدرجه ان الحكايه عجبتني وسجلت فيها ماجستير وعملت احلى واول رساله فيكي يا مصر عن الموضوع ده والفضل بعد ربنا يرجعله فيها
بعد كده الموضوع بتاع الرساله نقلني من شركه لشركه والحمد لله بقيت انا بادي التدريب ده وللنهارده هو موضوعي المفضل , وكل مره باديه بافتكره كويس واقرا له الفاتحه
فضل متابعني وكل ما اضايق الاقيه يتصل بيه !!! كل ما اجي على باله او يعوزني الاقيني باتصل بيه , كانت علاقه شفافه وغريبه ومن نوع خاص عمري ما كنت زعلانه واتصلت بيه الا وروقت
اب بكل ما تحمله الكلمه من معاني , ينفذ لروحك بسلاسه غريبه وما ازعلش منه لو قرص عليه لو حاجه عملتها ما عجبتوش لاني كنت عارفه انه كان بيعملها من منطلق ابوي حنون ومحب
عمري ما خطيت خطوه الا وسالته وعمره ما بخل عليه بالنصيحه, ساعدني في الوقت اللي فيه ناس قرايبي ما ساعدونيش وكانوا يقدروا يساعدوني , وقف جنبي , نصحني, علمني كتير
في يوم كلمته ما ردش وكنا في العيد قعدت اكلمه كتير ما وصلتلوش وتاني يوم الصبح صحيت عل مكالمه منه بس على ما صحيت كان قفل بعد ما فقت واتصلت عرفت انه مات وان اهله كلمه اللي كلموه اخر كام يوم عشان يقولوا لهم يحضروا الجنازه واني لو رديت كنت لحقته وحضرت الجنازه. عمري ما سامحت نفسي على الموضوع ده وكل ما افتكره ادعيله واقرا له الفاتحه
في مره شفت فيديو معناه انك لما تقول لحد انت قد ايه مديون له بالفضل سعادتك بتتضاعف  بس انا للاسف ملحقتش اقوله له ده عشان كده كتبت البوست ده عشان اقوله ساعدتني كتير وعلمتني كتير وملحقتش اقدم لك اي حاجه بس وعد مني ليك عندي ليك عمره اول مره حاروح فيها مكه الله يرحمك ويحسن اليك يا ابويا الروحي الغالي
افتكرت النهارده لاني لسه مديه التدريب ده النهارده في شركتي افتكرت طريقتك في التدريب ده وتهريجك وظرفك وانت بتديه الله يرحمك ويجعله صدقه جاريه ليك بعد وفاتك

 
 

الأحد، 16 مارس 2014

The Road Not Taken


The Road Not Taken Robert Frost

 

TWO roads diverged in a yellow wood,

And sorry I could not travel both

And be one traveler, long I stood

And looked down one as far as I could

To where it bent in the undergrowth;

 

Then took the other, as just as fair,

And having perhaps the better claim,

Because it was grassy and wanted wear;

Though as for that the passing there

Had worn them really about the same,

 

And both that morning equally lay

In leaves no step had trodden black.

Oh, I kept the first for another day!

Yet knowing how way leads on to way,

I doubted if I should ever come back.

I shall be telling this with a sigh

Somewhere ages and ages hence:

Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—

I took the one less traveled by,

And that has made all the difference

 

I had this poem in English A level in “Thanaweya 3amma” but for a reason or another I could never forget it. It is in my mind every now and then and my understanding to it changes and improves by time

Each and every decision made, each and every journey taken I usually remember it and  really do not know why !!

Sometimes I understand the road not taken as the usual thinking of a decision not made and how you may think the “what if” scenarios that come to your mind when facing problems in some decisions you make and the “what if “I did not do this, the “what if” I did the other choice ……

The “thing “you may think of may be any type of choices you made: a career, a friend, a relation, or no relation, a move in your life, …..anything can apply to the road not taken
 

Sometimes I understand “the road not taken” as taking the unusual untraditional ways is the only difference you can make to your life

But for me in 90 % of case I understand it as the first option, why we as humans usually rethink about our decisions and the “what if scenarios” are dominant in our thinking

Although by experience when you look back to a certain situation and revisit your choices you usually would take the same choice each and every time you redo it !!

Why are we obsessed with the “undo” option in life and hope that we would have that button to push to “undo” events, choices, and days of our lives

In all cases you really choose between options but in reality you are fulfilling god’s plans for you and your destinations are pre-planned even before coming to life so why the overthinking thing

I recently believe that everything is pre-planned by a bigger force than our tiny human well and when you surrender to this thinking you will have a better feeling and inner peace and enjoy your life

For me looking back to lots of events I find out that I do not regret anything both good and bad events because the good things made me happy and the bad things made me learn

The most important thing is the joy in the journey not the road or the destination, because eventually and surprisingly both roads may have the same destination and thinking of the other road may ruin the joy in the journey and of course ruin your life  

But what I am sure of, is that this poem will be in my mind forever in the two different meanings and who knows I may find a third or forth meaning. At that time I promise I will have a new post called the road not taken part 2 !!!!

الخميس، 13 مارس 2014

I saw the rainbow

Yesterday after the rains and while driving home suddenly I looked in front of me and found an amazing surprise : I saw the rainbow in the sky

For a while I was going to stop and make an accident with a car in the street as I stared at the sky astonished by the beauty of the scene

I took my mobile and had a picture of it , checked the picture to make sure that I had it in the cadre although it was small part of the rainbow  (in the picture you will see it above the last building to the right side of the picture , on the other side of the church)

I slowed down as much as I could to see it for the longest possible time

Then it disappeared between the high buildings form the right and clouds in the left

The happiness I had was speechless, and unforgettable

It was one of my breathtaking moments in life

The thing I thought of is that between the clouds and rainy weather their comes the rainbow

And it is the same in life events between the difficult times,  god still has surprises to us. Every day in itself is a miracle to live and enjoy.

And when you stop expecting thing they do happen , I remember me as a child each time it rained I looked to the sky looking for the rainbow but yesterday I did not think of it or even expect it and BINGO I saw it

Life can still have surprises to us, but you just have to wait for them and stop expecting them and BINGO they will happen

I saw the rainbow !!!

ايقاع الكون

جربت في مره تشغل مزيكا هاديه وتشرب حاجه بتحبها (شاي بالنعناع الاخضر مثلا) وتتفرج على حاجه حواليك

انا مثلا شوفت غصن شجره بيتحرك واكتشفت انه بيرقص على المزيكا دي
ولما التراك اتغير نقلت على الشجره اللي جنبه لقيت العصافير برضه بترقص وبايقاع ظريف وماشي برضه مع التراك الجديد

نزلت من العربيه ولما المزيكا وقفت لقيت صوت الهواء مع الشجر هو كمان عامل ايقاع ظريف

صوت العصافير عامل ايقاع اظرف

بيفرق الايقاع ده على حسب الجو ممكن يكون هادي وممكن يكون صاخب

زي المزيكا لما ممكن تكون سلو او ميتال

المهم انك تفتح قلبك وودانك عشان تعرف تسمع الايقاع وتشوف رقص الكون حواليك

حقيقي بيسعد اليوم وبيفرق فيه

ولما بترجع ليومك بعدها بتبقى كانك قفلت التلفزيون ورجعت تعمل اللي كنت بتعمله بس المره دي بمزاج ومود مختلف

صباح الفل

الثلاثاء، 11 مارس 2014

Love yourself because you are lovely

Yes love yourself, make this decision now and forever

No one is more important than you to love

You have only oneself so why to hate it

Enjoy loving you, and then the whole  world will love you. Be satisfied, enough of yourself and all the world will love you back. All your problems will be solved, all your dreams will come true all your fears will vanish and finally and most importantly you will have your inner peace and will have your heaven inside you, with you wherever you are  

To love yourself accept yourself for whom you are, for all the silly things, for all the qualities you have, for all your postponed dreams, for all your insecurities, for all your tiny little things that your friends know and you may not know, for all the missing things your mom always push you to achieve, for the one who is you

Listen to music, loudly so that it washes your pains, until you can describe how it tastes, it really has a taste and is even sweeter and nicer than anything else you can physically touch or eat

Pray with every part of your soul, talk to god he is there for you all time , he listens, he fulfills your needs, but in the perfect time so trust his judgment and timing

Drive in a crazy way with windows open and music on , sing loudly and make your neibouring car in  the traffic jams laugh at you or even turn your radio on, to a nice program , laugh at them, answer their silly questions in the radio, talk to yourself it really helps!!!!

Work with all your soul, enjoy what you do and make your work a piece of art just to satisfy yourself not your manager

Watch classic movies, avoid TV, talk show, avoid politics, avoid fears of tomorrow because when you will have to face tomorrow it will be in tomorrow not now so enjoy now

Play with kids, talk to them, discuss things with them seriously as if they are adults and you will be amazed of how today’s kids can think

Enjoy a sip of your coffee when thinking of nothing but the taste of coffee

Enjoy the movement of a leaf on a tree or grass with air

Enjoy the sun beam between tree branches

Enjoy a nice book in the sun

Enjoy warm blanket and warm drink in winter, cold lemonade in the summer and even the wind in spring all are god's creatures that were created for a reason, even if you can’t recognize

Enjoy old memories even if sad because sure you learned something from them

Get old pictures and see them again and remember the old days, your laughs, your company with those people even if they let you down

Talk to friends and tell them that you missed them

Reintroduce yourself to your parents and try to find a new space with them

Do some sports and listen to music while doing sports

Try to smile even to yourself, you deserve it!!!

When you wake up (after snoozing the alarm as usual !!! )spend these moments to thank god that he gave you a new day to enjoy, then count your blessings and expect a new nice day in the way

Help yourself and the others

Say hi to yourself in the mirror, send you a kiss in the air while passing in the mirror and tell yourself that today you look amazing

Accept yourself, love yourself, let go all the frustrations and painful memories of unfinished dreams they are not lost dreams they are unfinished and one day they will be complete in the way you wished them to be just as you wanted them to be

If you believe in this, in yourself, in your happiness, in your dreams you will be happy

Now repeat after me:

 I love me , I love me, I love me, I love me, I love me, I love me, I love me, I love me, I love me, I love me, I love me, I love me, I love me, I love me, I love me, I love me, I love me, I love me, I love me, I love me, I love me, I love me, I love me, I love me, I love me, I love me, I love me, I love me, I love me, I love me, I love me, I love me, I love me, I love me, I love me, I love me, I love me, I love me, I love me, I love me, I love me, I love me, I love me, I love me, I love me, I love me, I love me, I love me, I love me, I love me


I love me and you should too!!!!



الثلاثاء، 4 مارس 2014

اطلع بره الكادر

للي غيروا شغلهم كتير أو حتى اتنقلوا جوه نفس الشركه كتير يعرفوا كويس قوي احلى 15 يوم في حياه اي موظف في اي مكان
دول بقى بعد ما يعلن انه ماشي لحد ما يمشي احيانا اكتر او اقل من 15 يوم بس يعني في المتوسط 15 يوم
دول بقى اللي بيسلم فيها شغله ويستمتع بالبعد عن التفاصيل ويبطل يحضر اجتماعات ولا ياخد كوميتمت على نفسه
دول بقى اللي كل الناس عايزه تقعد معاك وقال ايه تشبع منك !!!
دول بقى اللي كل الناس بتاخد تيلفوناتك وايملاتك ويعملوا لك ااد على الفيسبوك عشان يستمروا في الاتصال (ملحوظه: عاده محدش بيتصل !!! لان اللي عمره ما كان عنده التفاصيل دي وانت ملقح معاه ميت سنه عمره ما حيدور عليك اشاسا !!!) ما علينا
دول برضه اللي في السكرته الناس حتديك السي في بتاعتهم (لو انت سايب الشركه خالص)
دول اللي برضه حتلاقي الناس حتموت وتعرف رايح فين لو انت ما قلتش
وبرضه يزغروا لك عشان ماشي ( ياااااا بختك)
في بقه اللي بيقى يرسم على مكتبك ولا كرسيك ولا دولابك (احباب المنفعه و قال ايه عايز يفتكرك!!!)
في اللي فعلا بيقى متاثر انك ماشيودول تبقى محظوظ بيهم قوي واوعى تفرط فيهم
في كمان الفاراويله Farwell  يعني ويطلع الفليب شارت المتين ويقعدوا يكتبولك اوتوجرافات ويرسموا قلوب وعاده بياخدوا الفلوس اللي اتلمت يجيبوا بيها تورته وياكلوها  !!!! قال ايه بيحتفلوا بيك !!!
يعني اشكالل والوان من الناس والتصرفات بس بصراحه بتبقى مسليه
انا بقى بحس فيهم اني زي ما مخرجين السينما ما بيعملوا بطلع من الكادر وتلاقي الدوشه قلت ومش سامع تفاصيلها
انا بحس اني بره التفاصيل والحواديت بتفرج عليها لاول مره وما بيشغلنيش حتروح لحد فين
بحس اني بشوف فيها الناس احيانا لاول مره
وبشوف فيها تعاملات الناس مع بعض بتفاصيل جديده لاول مره
احينا بقول لنفسي هو انا كنت مستحمله ده ازاي
واحيانا باحمد ربنا اني مش كده
بس اللي انا متاكده منه هو مقدار الراحه والسكينه اللي الواحد بيبقى فيها
وساعتها بتقول لنفسك طب هو انا كنت شاغل نفسي بكل التفاصيل التافهه دي ازاي
اوقات باتخيل ن الكادر ده ممكن يكون الواحد فيه مش سايب شركه ولا قسم , لاه سايب الدنيا والناس اللي فاضله همه اللي لسه مجوش معاه ساعتها برضه حيحس ان مفيش حاجه مستهله وان كله فسسسسسسس
يبقى الواحد يتعلم يطلع بره الكادر بمزاجه قبل ما يكون غصب عنه ويركز في نفسه وبس ويسيب التفاصيل والتفاهات ويخليه في كادره هو وبس مش اي كادر تاني
هااااه حتطلع زيي بره الكادر؟ ادعيلي اعرف افضل براه انا كمان !!!!!

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